Lmnop: He told me years later that I gave him an ultimatum. Either he quit using coke or we were done and I would figure out a way to get myself and our children away from him. I remember feeling that – but, I don’t remember saying it. I was devastated by his truth that he had been using coke. I felt all that you have mentioned. He also had these behaviors. He avoided me, didn’t want to talk to me, look at me, be with me – at all. He took off in our only car and was gone all the time. When he finally gave me that information – I went to his parents and told them. He was really mad about that, but too bad. If my son was trying to kill himself, I would want to know about it. What if he would have killed himself and they didn’t even get a chance to talk to him about it if they wanted to do that? Keeping his secret wasn’t helping him. It enabled him. We were about the ages that you are now. That was about 35 years ago. He quit that day. He has only used it twice since then. About 6 months later and again about 5 years ago. He did not relapse. But, there is always and still a chance that could happen.
