The only person you can save here is yourself. It is pointless trying to change your husband or get into arguments with him. If he is violent and/or abusive you have the right to have him barred from the house. I rather suspect you are reluctant to do this. There is help though. It would be a good idea to go along to a family support group nearby – perhaps an adfam one or there are plenty of al anon meetings at different locations. There you will find lots of people in the same situation who will give you tips on how to restore your own happiness – regardless of whether your husband continues drinking. Until you can find such a meeting – remember it is absolutely not your job to try and control or cure him. Remember too you are not alone. Talking to others in the same situation and learning how they cope will help. Good luck
