[wheelofyoga@live.co.uk]

thanks for your response.
Well, of course I’m scared of knowing but I’d rather know the truth even so. I agree with your ‘trust in your instincts’ – I always seem to know when things are getting worse even when he denies the truth himself – and I’d much rather he was able to bear the truth himself (and his partner) as that’s the only opening for help, support, improvement and a better life.
I try to be included in his/their lives, but I’m always told “of I’m too busy this weekend/not free that day/ etc.”
I don’t let this stop me trying, and look on it as a good sign that my son stays in touch at all, however tenuously.
Good luck with your children – we keep on keeping on because where there’s life there’s hope.