Lin and Vonnie my heart goes out to you as are both facing such hard decisions. Amanda is right about tough love, she and I have both been there and have suffered accordingly. You do need to take a stand and say no more. I rang the local police, neighbourhood safety officer and the homeless dept at the Local Authority just to find out what assistance was out there for my son. Once I did that it was action stations – we drove him to the homeless unit and he was adamant that he would return home that evening. He did turn up and we did not open the door to him. He started a load of abuse and noise and I had to call the police . They were great, they spoke to him and warned him of his behaviour. He kicked off again while they were still there so they took him away and dropped him 3 miles away with a warning to stay away from the house. The police have (sofar) been back 3 times. He has deffo got the message that I will not permit access to the house – I don’t open the door if I am home alone. He understands now that I meant it when I said his addiction was his problem and his choice. Only he can make it better – I will help him when he truly tries to get well. So I continue on a day to day basis with a heavy heart, every siren I hear I think might be him being blue-lighted to hospital. Every knock on the door makes my heart beat faster and when he turns up he is always rude and obnoxious but I still tell him I love him (normally thru the letter box) – how sad. BUT since he went we are a much more relaxed household and I am no longer scared to be in my own house. Take care. M xxxx
