Oh you poor thing I so understand what you are going through, you describe your son and it is mine too. I am exhausted with all the lies and stealing and the minipulation . It causes so much stress between my husband and I that I hide so much from him, so take everything on my own shoulders. My son now 23, is facing a possible jail sentence because he “lost it” when someone started on him. I know he won’t cope in prison I am very afraid for him. I spend my life walking on egg shells and bailing him out. He is so stressed with life I would hate to be inside his head! But as a mum I can not abandoned him. I too really don’t know what the answer is. He has at last been referred to the mental health team. If I get any assistance I will let you know, try and stay strong you are not alone 🙂