hi indigo, since i wrote that he has moved out! i completely agree with everythin u said-i am only now strong enuf to let him go-set out rules and boundaries and stick to them-he isnt quite at rock bottom yet but he’s getting that way-its just bloody heartbreaking to see-but it has started to affect my kids now-and i havent been happy for a long time, i have been prolonging the inevitable-which is him moving out of our family home-mainly because i cudnt bare the heartache it wud cause- but i realize and hav known deep down for a long time (prob last 2/3years) that its only the memory of him that im holding on 2-he isnt the man i loved anymore-and hasnt been for ages, and i cant cope with the lies and deciept anymore-im a nervous wreck because of that stuff! ive told him he is completely on his own with this battle now-i hav had enuf and want nothin at all to do with it anymore-and that i am puttin me and the kids first and this addiction is now something he has to sort out by himself-nothing i do or say makes any difference so he is on his own with it-defo tough love is the way forward for us-its the only thing i have left to hope for-i jus pray to god that eventually he will come out the other side of this living nightmare and come back to our beautiful loving little family-and that i dont lose him forever! 🙁 still love him so much it is killing me but i know i hav 2 b strong 4 my kids-otherwise they will not have a happy future xxx