I am so sorry, and sad to say I can relate to everything you have said. No help I know but I am going through the same thing. My son now has lost his car insurance, has the court chasing him for unpaid fines, and has just about lost his job. He lays in bed all the time he is here and I am sick of it. I even told him I wished I had never given birth to him, I am so sick of his verbal abuse, debts and lies….I hate what he has become and am so ashamed of what he is. I am leaving him to it now, I cannot do anymore but of course it is all my fault…….
