Welcome to the group concerned mum….Many of us are going through the same thing. Its hard, because as mothers and fathers we want to be there for our kids, make sure they are ok… The difference is our sons are addicts!!! By giving in, all we do is prolong the misery, create a cycle that only YOU can break.. Dont get yourself into debt, stop giving him money….He wont go hungry, because if he is that hungry, he will come to you…. Perhaps set ground rules, and what your expectations are…OK, in a perfect world he would be off the drugs and alcohol, but we dont live in a perfect world. I have told my son he can be at ours as long as there is no alcohol, drugs coming in my house, and he isnt wasted when he arrives…Saturday he got mashed, turned up, and we told him to leave..After a mouth full of abuse he went….now its hard, but it encroaches on all of us, and that isnt my life, or my partners, or my little ones…ITS HIS LIFE!!!! I will be there with open arms when he decides he really wants the help, until then, IM DONE!!!!!! The embarrassment, disgust, helpless feelings will always be there, but how we manage them can make a difference…Ive only been in this group for a short time, but I get stronger every time I communicate with another wonderful parent going through the same….Stay strong all your parents out there…….sending hugs xxx
