Janey……my heart goes out to you…. I felt embarrassed and like a lepor initially with my son….then anger at what he was putting us through…Then I grew some balls and reclaimed my home back….We have done everything for my son, had 4 years of all the crap….Dont get me wrong I love him, but I got very tired of it all…made me depressed, not able to communicate properly, taking things out on other members of my family….well not any more…My son can only come to our home and stay IF he isnt on any form of drug..thats the deal…if he does turn up out his head then we ask him to leave…You need to have a little bit of trust in one of your work mates…someone who you can turn to..believe me they will know something isnt right…..you have nothing to loose..take the bull by the horn and if possible let someone in to your world….I have many close friends but only one who knows my world….I know its hard but whilst you are letting him live with you and drag you down, you are enabling him to continue to do drugs….and in turn are making yourself ill…..What would happen if you kicked him out..he would then have to see what life is really like…not many 29 year old men still live at home….Janey, reclaim your home and life….its hard, and as mothers all we want to do is protect our kids, but its THEIR choice to do drugs…so they must face the consequences of their life…My son will shortly be going to prison for breach of tag…I cant wait..afew months peace…but he knows we will support him all the way IF AND WHEN he wants to get help……And Janey, if he wasnt a drug addict, do yuo think he would treat you the way he is doing??? I doubt it very much…. Alternatively if its possible set some ground rules….what you expect from him….you know him better than anyone…I hope things get better for you and are more manageable, but since we set the ground rules, our home isnt a war zone on a daily basis….and I can sleep better…..
