Hi All, the biggest thing we do as mums is try to hide it from the rest of the world…..and that in itself is enabling our kids to continue down their sad path. Keeping a roof over their head is enabling them, feeding them is enabling them….Personally I just felt embarrassed, ashamed, and wondered what I had done wrong..what I have learned is that it was nothing I did …….and I have also learned that I cant save him from drugs…he has to want to save himself….ive heard my son say he is going to kill himself, he needs money or he will get killed, ive heard pretty much all of the “quotes” a drug user uses……and I made a choice NOT to be part of his world whilst he is doing drugs…..Yes I worry, but I have more control over my emotions now…..and I may come over as uncaring, but thats far from the truth….He never asks me for anything now because he knows it wont happen…i never give him money, and I may be hard on him but I always give him one thing and thats to tell him I love him and I want him to be happy……
