Hi sad & tired , it took me a long time to get to the point of saying no ! Untold misery and thousands of pounds !! I finally accepted that his bad choices were his alone and I wasn’t to blame . I knew logically it wasn’t my fault but as a mother who loves my heart was in turmoil . Adfam helped me a lot and the ‘enabling’ advice made sense . We can’t fix our children because they’re not children , they’re adults making choices , just as you and I did at their ages !! I feel like the addict myself at the moment with the pledge “one day at a time” trying to be joyful but with caution . You’re not alone and not to blame . They have to hit a bottom and want things to change . I know that’s said over and over in these blogs but it is so true . All my good wishes are with you and my heart knows where you’re at x
