It’s not easy of course it isn’t , but your son is going to be angry that you’ve said ‘no’ because it’s not the way it should go in his mind . You’ve always said yes before and he’s comfortable with that . Maybe try to turn it round in your head and tell yourself that it IS because you love your son that you’re saying no . “Yes” hasn’t worked so far so the only thing left to try is the word ‘no’ . My son fell out with me so many times that I lost count . I would fret & worry and imagine the worst every time . And every time he was absolutely fine and at the next party giving no thought to how he’d left me feeling . Drugs make them the ultimate selfish being . You clearly are a good mum and maybe you have to cut him loose before he is ready to come back . Believe me I have been exactly where you’re at and know how easily I can be back there . He will speak to you again because he will try another way to get what he wants from you knowing that in the past he has always finally got you to say yes !!! Be strong . X
