Yes, we’re all on different pages of the same story . Sad and tired …… About the shopping you provide , ‘can’t take no more’ is correct . You are still enabling . I did the same for several years . The food you buy is either rotting in his cupboards because he won’t bother cooking for himself , or you are paying to feed his druggie friends . Shelter & food are the basics of living , while you provide either things he will continue to take the easiest route which for him is to continue with the lifestyle he has . I was and still am to a great degree blamed by my son for what has happened with him , although he no longer is abusive he still needs to re assure himself that it couldn’t be his own doing . Maybe that will come with maturity . The drugs they take distort all thought processes so you can’t hope that he wii see the light while he is still using . Those expectations will only hurt you further . Now you have started saying “no” he is spitting the proverbial dummy . He doesn’t hate you , you are most likely the person he loves most in his world , but the drugs make him behave a certain way . It is hard to see them do without and your natural inclination is to nurture BUT any giving in is enabling . Be strong , take back the power you have handed over to someone , who at the moment has no respect for you. X .