Hold your ground , you’re doing really well , it may not feel like it but consider , if you think your son is in the pub then he has money to spend !! You have changed the goal posts and he doesn’t like it . I heard as much and worse from my son “drop dead ” was his choice of words . You’ll no doubt hear more anger from him before he accepts what you’re doing , after all he has had a lifetime of knowing he can get round mum . This new stronger mum is someone he is now being introduced to and he’s showing his displeasure . They almost revert back to being 5 year olds , stamping their feet . Where at 5 you could smack the bottom or take away their favourite toys to correct behaviour you can’t do that now , maybe the ‘no’ word is much the same as taking away the toys . Could I suggest that you switch your phone off . Don’t open his texts or speak with him for the rest of the day . I’m sure he has done this many times to you . Don’t be available to his abuse . I spent several years dreading my phone alerting me to texts & calls because I knew none of them from him was to show interest in how I was . Only to drag me further into his misery . Stick with it , say no to every demand , i know how hard this is for you but you will end up making yourself ill if you let him regain the upper hand . X
