Hi
I haven`t got the exact same circumstances but similar. I have spent the last 24 hours thinking the same thing. What are people in our situations suppose to do ? In my view we cant win , if we stay are we showing that we are condoning the actions of our loved ones or if we leave are we then too concerned with what will happen to our loved ones or leaving a long term relationship because it got hard?? That may sound harsh but those views go through my head. My husband has had some many chances and i don`t think realises what his actions do to me as a person i feel completely broken.
For me i believe that i will know when enough is enough and only i know that not anyone else. Like you i have done this on my own not by choice but his family where not bothered even when he was fitting on the floor !!! I have learnt you can only rely on yourself and you have to do what is right for you
Thinking of you