Hi Lou, your story could be mirror image of mine, and its heart breaking but I stopped enabling my son some months ago…during his 24 years he has been in YOI twice and did several weeks in prison afew weeks ago. I got the rest of the family on board and had to explain what a lying, thieving , manipulating person he had become…Ive cried till I thought my heart would break, and felt ashamed, disgusted, annoyed, sad, empty….Now however I feel empowered in the realisation that whatever I try to do to help, will never be enough……Its time he grew up, smelt the coffee and dealt with things …I wont ever stop loving him, and will offer all the support in the world, but im not making it easy….I dont take him to his counsellor anymore, or sort things out with the appointments..Im done!!! At the moment, he is doing everything in his power but I know aswell as every parent of an addict that it could be short lived….I am proud to say I have stopped enabling him….BUT, Im also proud that he is trying to sort his life out..its down to him!!!!
