Hey Ami…I really want to hug you right now…what I’m going to say May not be what you want to hear, but you can’t save him…he has to want to save himself…as a mother of an addict( alcohol and cocaine, m cat, legal highs) I have seen it all….I have cried till I had no more tears to cry, I’ve got angry, I’ve withdrawn…..and their addiction hits you like a brick wall, almost suffocates you…it took me 4 years to firstly admit to myself he had a problem, and then to STOP enabling him and set out house rules…at the moment my son is really trying hard to get his act together…he had a relapse last week, but was so angry with himself after and is back on the road to TRYING to stay sober / clean….and he has my full support…but it has come at a price…prison, family members turning their back, etc….stop enabling him now…and do it today…love is never enough….I’m not saying don’t support him, but addicts manipulate, lie thieve and make those around them feel just as bad….you sound such a caring young woman, who has a great future…unfortunately that future will be a distant memory if you stay with him whilst he is still addicted….cause they suck everything out of you! I hope against hope he values his life enough to want to work at getting clean…it’s a life long commitment! Hugs to you hunny, and do what you think is right for YOU……here if you need to chat xxx
