Hi jojo…firstly the only person to blame is the person addicted, and addicts love to blame everyone but themselves….and the only person who can really help them is themselves….living around an addict is like walking on egg shells, and the worst kind of living…mainly because you get drawn into their pain,anger, despair! Loving an addict I’d the hardest thing, but there is help for families…just talking to others is a godsend…I found this page around 8 months ago and had just stopped enabling my son…that meant no help at all…no money, not living with us, and only getting our cooperation and support when he made the decision to get help…he has had one relapse in around 9 weeks, started work which he loves, and generally trying to continue on Hispano to sobriety…it’s hard, and heart breaking turning your back on your son, but it gave him the wake up call….he could relapse at any time, but he knows with our support his counsellor and really trying he has a chance….in your case your children and you are what’s important…please think about the effect this will be having on them.”,massive hugs to you Hun, and I really hope he can fight his addiction before it’s too late…hugs Hunni xxx
