Susan, so sorry for your pain…as mums we do everything to keep our kids safe, then they make decisions we cannot control….I too have an addict son, who has drained the life out of the rest of the family….I too use to drop everything for him, enable him all the time, but not any more…I just couldn’t physically take any more, so gave him an ultimatum. No contact, help , nothing until he was ready to change….so when the phone went saying he would kill himself, my instinct was to get in the car, but I didn’t….I told him to go away and ring me with something worth hearing….don’t get me wrong, it went against everything I felt, but if simply had it! It took him a couple of months, a small stint in prison for the penny to drop….he is now in recovery, and it’s early days, he has a job, and had 1 relapse, where he was so mad afterwards, he apologised and said I won’t let this best me mum……every day is another step away from his addiction, and a day he can enjoy…please think about how your family is functioning at the moment, and then how you would like it to be, because although it’s hard standing back and not enabling your son, whilst enabling as parents all we do is add to the problem….hugs sweetie, and talk to someone…if not for your son, but for you, because you need the help too xx
