Hi Gill, I’m sorry you feel so alone…..I too felt like that, until I spoke to a friend who is a police officer….believe it or not, he arrested my son prior, but doesn’t judge..he gave me some useful local numbers which I rang…one was a support group for parents: partners etc….it was a godsend…..I learned so much about my behaviour and how it impacted on my son making things far worse, when all I wanted to do was help him…also coming on here I have learned, cried at others stories, but it has made me stronger and I feel able to cope better. My son has had 2 relapses in just over 10 weeks….he really wants to get well, but the addiction sometimes takes over…it’s almost like a reaction for him, …if something goes wrong! He now has to build on different strategies to dealing with stress etc…..the biggest thing is, he had to want to do it..no amount of tslking, help from others will change his mind…he has to want to change…when that time came for us, we rallied round, still do, supporting him…it’s bloody hard, and everyday is a battle….he started a new job 5 weeks ago, his supervisor is an ex addict, so understands, and has taken him under his wing….he works hard, does loads of overtime which occupies his mind….but it’s not over by a long shot…..his addiction lives with him daily and always will…..try and find some support for you Hunni xxxxx
