I have only just seen these replies. Sorry
So here I am 2 1/2 months on. Our family home is up for sale. His behaviour has got worse. I dont hear from him for days in end. He hardly comes and sees his children. The ones he said he’d die for. What a wicked thing addiction is.
I am still unravelling the financial mess he got us in and although some days are really tough, i feel like everything is within my control. I dont have the added worry of stressing about him too. I have been in touch with a debt charity called StepChange who have been a massive help. I can finally sleep at night.
Although i feel sadness when i see my ex, i no longer feel i need to “rescue” him. I think i hoped that the seperation and house being put up for sale would give him a wake up call but it hasn’t. In fact he has developed a bigger “victim” mentality and everyone else has the problem,not him.
I am incredibly lucky in that i have totally supportive parents, friends and employer. I can finally see the tiniest glimmer of hope in what has been a very very long tunnel.
