Hello,
Thank you for your response, I wish I could share the good news that I was hoping for; that my Dad miraculously had a change of heart/mind and got better but unfortunately my Dad passed away on the 15/04/15 due to a gastrointestinal hemorrhage caused by alcohol.
My mum an partner have been absolutely excellent throughout the whole of this and without them I really don’t know how I would have coped. I also have a one year old daughter and despite the fact I have a broken heart she manages to piece it back together everyday.
My Dad had tonnes of friends and family who all tried to help him massively, my Dad did want help and he wanted change but unfortunately not only was he an alcoholic but he also suffered with anxiety and depression which meant he simply couldn’t attend AA or rehab. His GP and alcohol advisior told him he could only gain help if he asked for it, he asked for it, cried and begged to get better, but the help they offered involved being part of a group and socialising which he could not do! He attened AA once and it made him relapse as he couldn’t handle the anxiety and in the end it was a constant spiral round and round again. In the end my Dad decided he didn’t want any help and this led to him drinking and drinking and drinking, he even converted from cider (what he drank all his life) to vodka, whiskey and wine and started to steal money.
I really hope that your Dad is not in this position and can seek the help he needs. I also hope you are not faced with the same situation I am in. I also don’t really have any advice either, if they want to get better they have to do it on their own unfortunately, no one can make them get better as much as we want them too.