Hi endofmyteath, it’s an awful situation to be in. We don’t envisage this when we have our kids. I know how you feel, it’s so hard seeing them destroy their lives. My son is still homeless although we have him stay at weekends. He sofa surfs with all sorts I believe in the week and goes to a charity run centre weekday mornings for showers, food, drink and advice etc but it isn’t open at weekends so has no where to go. As a parent I can’t bear the thought of him starving and cold all weekend so go 20 miles to collect him on Friday, feed him up, and take him back Monday. It’s putting a strain on us as It’s like having a young child again as I don’t feel I can trust him to be left so have to take him to his brothers to stay the night if my husband and I want a night out. Some weekends he’s not too bad and helps out other times he just sits about looking utterly miserable. It must be boring for him staying with us at 28 after having had his own place for several years but it’s his own fault he lost it and jobs and his friends through stupid drugs. I just don’t know where it’s all going to end. He went out for a couple of hours yest and I’m sure I could smell weed when he came back so suspect he’s still doing it despite agreeing he wouldn’t whilst staying at ours. I get cross and say I won’t get him if he doesn’t stop but with winter upon us I don’t know if I can go though with it. He looks so much better after staying the weekend having slept properly, been fed, shaved etc. and I suppose I still have some hope he can turn his life round but for how much longer I don’t know. I hope we can post some positive outcomes one day. In the meantime stay strong and look after yourselves. X
