Hi drivebunny
I really feel for your situation. I have a son with a drugs problem and felt that there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
If I could ever even slightly give you a little advise, find an AlAnon meeting support group to attend. It will feel a bit strange to attend the first one, but after that, you will feel the help and support from all the other people who are going through and experiencing what you are going through will give you a new found strength to carry on.
My prayers are with you that you havent given up on the real man who is still there when the alcohol is’nt.
I also read a book recommended to me by a supportive Councillor and that really helped in changing my thoughts and actions. Look on Amazon at Get your Loved Ones Sober. This was such an insite.
I really hope you get through this tough time. You really are not alone.
Mrs M