Your doing the right thing, by finding out, asking for help etc….a very good friend who I met on a group similar to this gave me wake up call,when she said this..” Your child is not a child, but an adult…and as adults we have consequences when we make bad decisions…why is your adult son any different.” ? And she was right….up until that point, we had set him up with his own place, paid his bills, helped him with shopping, clothes etc….a bottomless pit as far as he was concerned,not to mention the abuse if he couldn’t get his own way, the phone calls etc…..as for the whys…I still don’t know, other than I now know his triggers, when he’s going to relapse….I don’t think thry know why…my son tends to self medicate when things get too much….until he really wants to change the cycle, I’m resigned to the fact….. Educate yourself , get smart, and learn to say no…set boundaries if he’s living with you and stick to them hun…..I hope ive helped, and I truly hope he gets help xxx
