I know how alone you feel, even when the one you love is near, you still feel alone. I’m feeling it right now as while typing this message my wife is asleep on the floor downstairs due to her addiction to alcohol. I love her but at the same time I don’t know if I do. I love the idea of her, I love the woman I fell in love with but there comes a time when your with an ‘addict’ that you have to realize who you loved was someone different. My advise to you, is don’t beat yourself up, don’t spend countless hours trying to convince him he is an addict or he should change as none of it matters as the only person who can change him is himself. I’ve spent the last 12 months trying to help, to change my wife so to get back the woman I love but I’ve learnt nothing I do matters as it has to come from her and not me. Also do remember that while he may not feel he has a choice, you do ! You can chose to spend your time with someone you love feeling lonely and sad, letting the addiction beat you or you can chose to move on. When you decide is up to you but please don’t let his addiction overwhelm you. If you want to talk I’m happy to help, my advice is just based on experiance. The hardest thing as a partner is to accept your powerless against it but when you do accept this it is hard but does help. I hope this post helps if not now then in the future. Take Care – Fin
