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My son has become addicted to that dreadful drug. He has got into debt to the tune of £16k using credit cards etc to fund his habit. He lives with his girlfriend and her mum and we are doing our utmost to help him. If it wasn’t for his girlfriends mum, I’m not sure how I could handle this. We have managed to get him to see a counsellor which has helped. He now spends £200 a week on cocaine, down from £400. We have also paid for him to speak to a psychiatrist, only last week, so hopefully that will have a positive outcome. He is holding down his job, but unfortunately the guy he works with is the person who supplies his drugs. This guy thinks that my son is selling it on, when he is in fact taking it all himself. I/we have given him money to try to pay off his drug debts, each time him promising that will be the last time, and then unsurprisingly my son comes back wanting more money. He has run scared, panicking that he can’t pay for the drugs. It is such a difficult thing to see, but I can’t afford to give him any more. It’s all I can think about 24/7. I think I need to get some help myself because I just don’t know what to do anymore. He has threatened to kill himself on more than one occasion, and that just breaks my heart. None of my family know, his dad and girlfriend and her mum are the only ones.
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Thanks for posting.
What an awful situation to be in, I really feel for you.
Where to begin…
Firstly is the GP aware of the situation? If he is threatening self harm then they need to know even if it doesn’t seem like he will do anything.
I’m terms of help, I am all for doctors and shrinks – I do worry though that he isn’t going to get much out of that while using drugs still, even if it’s not as much.
N an ideal world he would go to a rehab and be supervised coming off this and have some intense peer support for a while to try and break the cycle, the reality is that these are really expensive and if he is bleeding you dry then it sounds like a no. What I would recommend is CA or NA meetings, there will be a ton of people in there just like him and he can get help, support and find a way to live clean.
For you talk to people about the problem, post here, get counselling or support throigh this site as addiction doesn’t just harm the addict, it harms everyone they are in touch with.
Please keep posting, happy to help
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Hi, I’ve been reading your text and I can really sympathise with you. My family have been through the same nightmare with my 27 yr old son. I reckon he’s been dabbling for the last 10 years. We suspected it, but it came to a head a year ago. We paid off his drug debts, gave him a clean slate, he attended AA meetings and CA meetings, did most of the 12 steps and got good sponsors. Unfortunately hes since relapsed and it’s business as usual, with him asking for money. We never give him cash, but we do buy him cigarettes, food, petrol. However, it’s taking it’s toll on our health now, with worry and anxiety. We’ve realised he’s got to learn to be independent of us, as he’s never ever suffered any consequences of his actions ..which is what we’ve been told by several support groups. Its so hard , as a parent you don’t want to see that happen. Please look after yourselves first and foremost.
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All the replies make my heart sink as does the original post and I hope there has been improvements for everyone. I myself am a bulimic and drug addict. I always regret buying and taking drugs like cocaine and I’m in no way proud of it, I only wish I didn’t know how it felt to take the drugs but it’s past that now of course. I hope everyday that my mam doesn’t see me as a junkie or a waster. I do have a part time job and do my best in every other aspect of life but the trade off for that is I am bulimic any day that I don’t take hard drugs. This comment I hope to reassure anyone that your addict family member doesn’t ever try to hurt you. They just can’t see any reason to stay alive other than to take drugs as you end up feeling as though they are the reason you should stay alive as long as you can continue taking drugs. For me and I assume for most like me I do have a drug of choice which I realised recently however I will take any drug I can get whatever it does to me I will take it and risks make no difference to me. This is how an addict thinks 🙂 best of luck to everyone.
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