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Hi,
First post ever. My partner has been in AA for just short of 2 years. Everything was going so well until last weekend.
I was away on my hen weekend and late on Friday he returned my call to say he had been drinking.
Turns out he drank so much he wet himself (so not a small slip).
I know it’s a disease and all of that stuff but I’m so furious! We’re now due to be married in 2 weeks and I just feel like he’s ruined it.
I don’t think I want to leave him – it was just one slip (and there has been a lot of external stress factors over the past few months). But I am just so hurt and so so angry.
I feel like I’m going to have to put on this fake version of myself on the wedding day because I really just feel very depressed. And then I get angry about that because I never get to have these nice life moments that other people seem to.
I don’t know what to do.
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Since his relapse has he stopped again or carried on drinking. I heard that there can be a few relapses on the way to recovery. It’s what he does after that matters. I know how you feel my partner has been addicted to coke for over 5 years and a few times he has stayed clean for 5 weeks then relapses. The first time I was devastated and didn’t understand why he slipped but it only takes one trigger. Is he still going to AA?
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Hi ALA,
I’m so sorry to read about your partner’s relapse and the way it has affected how you think about your wedding.
If you would like to speak with trained and experienced people who would understand what you are going through, please contact us at Icarus Trust as we are a charity that offers support to people who are affected by a partner’s addiction.
You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org
All the best to you.
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