[carole]

It is very difficult when they will not admit to it. I can only advise to go on you gut feeling and address it now before it grts out of hand. Sit down with him and share your fears with him. Tell him you will not think any less of him that you love him and that you just want him to be honest with you. That you recognise a change in his behaviour and appearance and you are concerned about his well being. Let him know you will be there to support him that there is help available if he needs it .

[deb]

This sounds very much like my situation. Our son ran up debts and became moody and angry not even bothering to talk to me or my husband. It went on for a few years and we paid off his debts only for him to run them up again and then in January this year he became psychotic and ended up being sectioned and put on medication. They said it was from using cannabis and if he stays off it he should recover. He is in supported housing now but I know he’s back on the drugs again and i’m waiting for the devastation to happen all over again. Your son sounds very much like mine and I would be quite certain he’s on something but the trouble is that unless he wants to stop and unless he admits he has a problem then as parents there is nothing we can do. They hold all the cards. You and your husband must try and look after yourselves as its so stressful and gut wrenching all the time and you don’t want to become ill. Don’t let one person bring the rest of you down. Drug users are very selfish people, they don’t care about anyone elses feelings or concerns, its all about the next fix for them. Try and stay strong and don’t give him anymore money because thats only helping him buy drugs.

[deb]

PS I would go to see his doctor and mention your concerns to him/her and if you have a local Mental health Team in your area speak to them and get some advice.
Its not easy being a parent and all we want is the best for our kids so its hard to see them doing this to themselves. I hope you manage to get some help.

[final-chance]

Hi Supporter, your experience is very similar to my parents when they tried to cope with my brother. Deb is right, there is little you can do until your son admits he has a problem and more importantly wants to change. 20 years ago, pre internet, drugs weren’t really talked about, I think my brother was the only person I knew who had a problem, it’s good that sites like this exist for people to share their stories and ask for support. Good luck with your son x

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