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Hi Mel86,

Welcome to the Forum, I bet you feel better for getting that off your chest.

I am the Mum of an addict, alcohol and cocaine, my son is doing ok at the moment, but I lived with the problem for 10 plus years before he decided he needed help, and they have to be the ones who decide if they want help.

My Son has been in rehab twice, but it costs an awful lot of money. They were brilliant at the place where he went, all recovering addicts themselves, but such lovely, warm people.

Your Brother sounds as if he has a good job with very good money, so this of course funds his habit, it’s an expensive hobby, and an evil drug.

It’s very sad that he doesn’t spend time with your Dad, but I should imagine that’s his guilt. My Son doesn’t have a very good relationship with his own Dad, but like I tell him, you only have one Dad and when they are gone you will then realise.

Do you think your Brother wants help, does he think he has a problem?

The Icarus Trust would be a good place to get in touch with, you can talk to people who know exactly what you are going through.

Keep in touch on here, take care of yourself first.

Dx

[mel86]

Thanks so so much for replying D, I really appreciate it, I didn’t realise quite how long I had rambled! I think my brother firmly has his head in the sand, but how he has no idea how messed up his behavior is I don’t know. I have told him straight that he has a problem with coke when I’ve snapped a few times more recently, and he must surely know his behavior is far from normal and the amount of money he must have put up his nose is insane. I just hope he realises how selfish he is nowadays and how much that hurts, if he thinks his behavior is even slightly normal then I think that would be the most worrying thing of all.

I just hope that he doesn’t have to hit rock bottom and lose everything before he is pushed to seek or accept help, but it’s what many people tell me 🙁 Just so frustrating not knowing how to get through.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply, I’m glad you son is doing OK at the min and I hope he continues to do so. He sounds lucky to have you 🙂

All the best,

Mel x

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