[anonannoyed]

Hello all, I’m new here.

I came in the hope that maybe you had some new advice or suggestions on what to do!?

My husband has been a social drinker and drug user for just over 12 years but the past 5 have just been hell and it’s now so much worse.

He will leave his phone in his van after work and just go to the pub and then to someone’s house and I won’t see or hear from him till he decides to come home in the morning!

He now does this twice a week!

We have 3 children!!!

He comes home upset saying what a mess he is and that he can’t keep doing this to me and his family and that he will sort it out! Then a few days later he’s back on it.

He’s promised he will get help but obviously never does.

I just can’t live like this anymore, is there anything I can do?? I don’t want to ruin my children’s lives, I don’t want to mess their heads up by throwing him out to try to teach him a lesson and then letting him back in if u know what I mean??

Please help

[rani123]

I’m going through the similar struggle as you but the difference is my husband doesn’t just only drink alcohol he smokes weed and sniffs cocaine . I have two children that are not with him and they have seen the effects of my marriage on the rocks with my husband. His behaviour and attitude is degrading towards me and my children when he is on a come down . When he is out he will turn his phone off and go on all night till morning intoxicated himself as much as he can and then blame me for his doings . We have a lot of arguments which get physical and my kids witness everything. He storms out of the house and leaves me all upset and I’m questioning myself how was it my fault . This is an addiction your husband has and he needs help or else he will never change and you and your children are the ones who will suffer . Best option leave him for good and move on . I know it’s very hard and I’m sorry if I sound harsh but it’s reality you are the one who needs to take action . I have left my husband we no longer live together although we are still married legally but I won’t allow him back in my life. He hurt me tooooo much . I got myself in huge debt because of him which lead to me and my kids being evicted from our home .

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