[joemily]

Hi everyone. My had a sponsor for CA, he agreed to be his sponsor on Sunday and he’s dropped him already. He said he had to go to five meetings a week and wherever they were he had to go, even when he explained his van was unreliable and therefore some of them he could not physically get to, and he had to text him at 7:45am with a list of gratitude and call him at an exact time in the evening no matter what. Now I agree that it’s a life changing thing and he has to stick with it etc but his job is not just 9-5, he can’t always commit to texting/calling at the same time and committing to a definite 5 meetings a week in any location is really difficult for him and when he tried to explain that the guy basically said he was failing.. I have listened to the phone calls where my partner has tried his hardest to explain his predicament and how he is 100% committed but he can’t lose his job by putting this above it. The guy has not been understanding at all and has (in my opinion) been causing him more stress this week. does that sound right to you? Because it doesn’t to me. That kind of thing might work for someone without other commitments but he was really struggling :/ I would mention that he still plans to go to meetings and his aim is to do at least five a week but he cannot always commit to that. He is really trying and I can see that.

[danman83]

Tell him dont give up.. and try someone else.. if hes got work commitments and travel problems. He should undertand. If anything hes putting pressure on him and will make him worse if you ask me. Tell him just find some one else who is understanding.

[joemily]

I thought that as well but I wasn’t sure if I was just naive or whatever. Just seemed a bit much to me! He said he’s not going to give up, think he was just a bit disheartened by that experience which I can understand.

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