[clog]

Hi Everyone

I have an alcohol dependant boyfriend – When we met he was living in a shed so I took him in as a friend and he helped me with things I had going on. He is an amazing man, loving and kind until he drinks which has become daily.

He doesnt work and looks after my dogs, daughter (10) and household. He drinks to numb emotional pain – He has PTSD I think but cant prove that as he refuses to see the doctor.

I enable him by buying him Alcohol – I am scared of him just stopping drinking as the physical effects when he has tried have been massive.

He rarely sleeps unless he is plastered and has bad nightmares. He is emotionally manipulative and abusive at times but only towards me.

If he is not drinking alcohol he is on Pro plus or energy drinks or Coca cola – which makes him wired.

He gets very bad heartburn and acid reflux if he hasnt drunk enough or over a period of time.

I want to support him through this and help him – It was the reason I took him in in the first place and the fact a relationship has developed is kinda secondary.

Any advice kindly appreciated.

[georgia26]

until he admits he has issues and is willing to help himself i dont think this will work – he needs to speak to a doctor because he is self medicating.

I truly hope you find a way and he gets the help he needs, he needs to see a doctor asap. xx

[icarus-trust]

Hi Clog,

Thank you for posting. It really sounds like your boyfriend needs some medical advice but he needs to be willing to do that for himself.

I notice that you say he can be abusive. To keep yourself and your daughter safe don’t forget that you can call the National Domestic Violence Helpline, if you want any advice on your situation and what to do next. Their number is 0808 2000 247 and it is free to call, open 24 hours a day, and calls are confidential.

If you would like other support for yourself please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that helps people who are dealing with the impact of the addictions of a family member or friend. One of our trained and experienced people would talk with you if you get in touch. Maybe that would help you to make sense of what is happening.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

Good luck and keep safe.

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