[mrtoad]

Hello all, this is my first post.

In June we lost our 40 year old daughter to alcohol after years of fighting it, now my granddaughter has started to drink and is suffering from mental health issues.

Last week I got a text from her just saying I’m on the bridge, when I realized what was happening I raced to the motorway bridge near her flat and she was on The road side, I held her for 15 minutes until a young lady came to our rescue.

I’m 62 and suffered 3 heart attacks plus other a illnesses.

I just can’t carry on anymore dealing with lifes shite my granddaughter was drunk again yesterday, sorry for rambling o

[lindyloo]

I’m so sad to read your story, and I’m so sorry for your loss. As parents of children with addictions, it’s out of our hands, we can only do our best to support them.

I really hope your grand daughter will wake up one day and realise she has a problem and seek help. It’s totally down to her choices.

There’s some good advice from people on this forum. Read the other stories and you’ll realise that you not alone.

I don’t have all the answers but I want you to know that people care about you and what you’re going through.

Please accept help and support and look after your own health. Im starting to realise I need to do this too. I’m same age as you.

Take care, Lx

[mrtoad]

Thanks LindyLoo, this all new to meand my head is in a bit of a dark a place at the moment, I can’t explain the fear I felt stood on that bridge holding on to her with the trucks thundering by below us.

I have managed to get her to stay with us for a few weeks while she tries to get help but with this covid its difficult,

But thank you for taking the time to read and reply to my post Xx

[kel1]

I have a heavy heart reading this. I am so sorry for your loss, and hope that one day you will find some peace. Life can be very cruel at times, and I understand the feeling of having enough of lifes stressors – that’s way to much to deal with. I can imagine what you felt was fear and terror. It’s traumatizing to say the least so of course you’re sitting in a dark place, who wouldn’t be. You are a very brave person to reach out and help your granddaughter, especially with you carrying so much pain around. Hold onto her and each other. I would imagine you all need to grieve as a family for your daughter, so I wonder if that could be something you might consider. Maybe family support groups for grieving relatives.

Alcohol never really takes the pain away, it makes it so much worse, I only wish people would understand that.

I’m here if ever you need to talk.

Take good care of yourself.

[mrtoad]

Thankyou Kel1 for your kind words, it does actually feel better to share my problems but I know I have a very hard battle to fight,

I’m just a normal working father/grandad doing his best but it doesn’t seen to be enough and I don’t know if I can carry on.

I’m actually sat in work with tears in my eyes and I feel like a failure.

[kel1]

“one day at a time” and when that don’t work “one hour at a time” or even a minute. Set the goal lower because when we feel this way we need to be much more aware of the expectations we put on ourselves. So right now, it’s ok you feel this way, however hold on for another hour and get thru this time. Whenever you look further than an hour or day and you can’t cope come back to this method. Then congrat yourself for making it. Small goals such as making a nice meal at the end of the day – get outdoors also – long walks helped me when I was distressed.

You can do this, and it’s ok to cry it’s actually healing. You’re are healing and healing doesn’t have to look pretty. Be around people your safe with and be nice to you.

[mrtoad]

Thankyou kel1 ????

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