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Me and my partner have been together for 6+ years and it’s always been a 3 way relationship due to his addiction to alcohol. At first I didnt realise just how bad it was until I was far too gone into this relationship, and now all he does is sleep all day, gets up between 5-9pm, eats something small and then crack on with drinking alcohol from about 11pm until he passes out in the early hours of the morning, but it is progressing to 9-11am.

I’m a student nurse about to ualify later this year and it’s been a struggle to get this far in my studies, and he has shown no support or offered any help when I’m clearly struggling as “it can’t be as bad as me, at least you’re doing something with your life” and becomes very nasty, almost as in a jealous rage.

I’ve tried everything I can think of to help support him, but now the boundaries we once had are competly gone and he will never have them back in place.

He tells me that he isn’t with me because I have money coming in, either from employment or student loans but he always refer to it as “our” money despite I constantly tell him the money is for support for my studies, but he just uses it for his own alcohol.

His new thing he likes to yell at me for a that I am an enabler. I know I am this. It doesn’t take a genius to figure that out, but the boundaries don’t exist because he refuses to have any.

I want to support him as much as possible, but I just don’t know what else to do. He has all the support he can possibly get and refuses to engage with them as its not the support he wants.

He’s been on different medications to no avail of him coming off alcohol.

I dont really know what I want from writing this, but i can’t just give up on him yet. Can I?

If I broke up with him now it would just make things worse for him.

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