[amski12]

Hello, My partner (ex at the moment) is a cocaine addict, I don’t think I enable anymore I’ve asked him to leave the family home, I don’t really bother with him too much I still try to get him to support us (3 children) financially – however to be expected that doesn’t turn out too well! I have accepted we will lose our home and I have accepted I will have to rebuild our (mine and the children’s) lives myself, however I dont want to give up completely as I’ll feel like I’ve failed the children they deserve a dad and he’s a good one addiction aside!

I think I know that if he managed to get sober he would be a great person again, since he’s moved back to his parents he’s gone backwards they enable him, they do everything for him, give him money, give him access to cash (via work) we have fallen out as I’ve spoke to them and explained what they shouldn’t really do and suggested talking to him – which they can’t seem to do! I just don’t know what to do – I know I can’t really do anything till he says he’s easy for help! He says he wants to get clean but I feel like it’s just words to keep me there.. there’s no proof or actions… I’m worried about his mental health and have been asking him to go to the doctors – which again says he will but never does….

I do think it’s time (and I am already doing) taking a step back but is it the right thing to do? What if something happened – overdose or suicide I’d feel guilty, could I have done more?

This has been going on for a few years an I’ve been through all the motions with him, I’ve done the paying his debts, lending money etc etc and he doesn’t ask me anymore as he knows I will not do anything to aid his addiction or pick up after him! However his family do – I do feel a bit bad falling out with them but I’ve told them firsthand how hat he will do with money and how to try to be with him, how he will lie and manipulate- he right now is not the same person he was

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