[angelar]

hi, I’ve no advice for you I’m afraid but just wanted to say I’m in a similar situation and I don’t think you’re being a nag as I feel for same. Weekend nights are regularly ruined for me as I’m waiting for my other half to return home or ring me to pick him up. He has no respect or thoughts for my night, despite me working 2 jobs during the week and him not working at all. I fully understand what you’re going through

[icarus-trust]

Hi,

Thank you for posting your story. I do sympathise with what you are going through. It is not surprising that you feel your husband’s drinking has pulled you down emotionally as it is something very hard to live with.

I’m sad that you feel alone in this and wonder if you would like to talk with people who would understand. I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust. We support people who are going through what you are, dealing with the impact of a loved one’s addictive behaviour. We have trained and experienced people that you could talk with if you feel it would be helpful to you.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

I hope this is useful. All the very best.

[georgia26]

wow, this is so odd reading this as I am in the EXACT same situation.. mine goes to support groups, doesnt touch a drink for 4 weeks then relapses and binges with alcohol and cocaine.

he sees me as a nag as well, I find myself analysing him, every move he makes, everytime he leaves the house.

He too makes promises and breaks them, letting me down, alcohol comes first as soon as he has 1, he becomes so selfish. Which is so unlike him.

I have left and packed my bags because of it so many times.

I dont know what to do either, he binges and is mentally unwell for days after and hates himself for it then it happens again, its so draining.

[tess]

Yes this story is so familiar, especially when they look at you as if you are the one with the problem. It is selfish, and it is so emotionally draining and disempowering. Your only crime is you want the real person – the person with no alcohol in their blood streams, that’s who you fell in love with. Instead its like living with a Jekyll and Hyde – and you can never be absolutely sure who you are going to wake up with or is going to walk through the door.

Take comfort that all your emotions are real and justified, and you don’t need to make excuses for them. You are only human.

Do seek out support, simply knowing you are not alone is so valuable.

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