[selina1985]

Hi Crusha, I am currently experiencing the same problem with my older brother, who is taking drugs. It has come to the point, where I see no way out and he is affecting me mentally. I have been on antidepressants for the past 4 months, however when do we say STOP and not help anymore. I fear that by not helping I will be affected severely with guilt and if I do, he will continue to steal from me and I may have a nervous breakdown. I have no idea where to turn either. 🙁

[crusha]

Hi Selina, I feel your pain but you are not responsible for your brothers actions. I have supportedy brother for many years at the cost of my health & happiness & the end result has been him lapsing yet again, blaming everybody else but himself. Unfortunately when they are in denial they will keep choosing what they do regardless of the destruction to others around them. My brother took advantage of me again recently but it was just that one too many that pushed me over the edge & I kicked him out & remained strong to give him the wake up call he needed. After being on the streets for a week it scared the life out of him because I stuck to my boundaries & DIDNT GIVE IN which is what he is normally used to. I have now been told by him that he wishes for me to never contact him again! Very hurtful when I have done & given so much to him. The journey has made me accept that I can’t save him he can only do that himself & I am so much happier without him as it causes me so much stress which makes me ill. So my advice to you would be to find the strength to do tough love. Stop doing for him so that he has no choice but to do for himself. Tell him you love him and always will but you must think of yourself now & enjoy your life. I don’t feel guilty anymore because he turns on me when he doesn’t get what he wants and I know I have done so much and cannot possibly have done any more. So I can now accept that I can’t help him I can only love him. ????

[icarus-trust]

Hi Crusha
You sound such a brave strong person who has had such a hard time.
I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust that supports the family and friend of addicts. We have trained volunteers who you could talk to if you think that would help you deal with what you’ve been through.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck with everything.

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