[jan0987]

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[bbbbb93]

What and how long ?

[jan0987]

I thought he quit about a year ago or so but I was wrong. Without me knowing he was doing coke on nights out, at work etc. He recently stopped going to the pub on a Friday as he said he had been doing it and wanted to stop. I was angry he had been doing it but pleased he had told me. Over the weeks he has started to go back to the pub, just for a couple of drinks and then more and more. I told him I didn’t like it so he said he would make me a promise that he would never buy it but if he was offered it he couldn’t promise. So I’m just going to be worried he will continue. I don’t think he should go to that pub or be around the people that also do coke regularly. He disagrees.

I thought he wanted to stop, I believe he had. Just been lying the whole time. He wants me to be ok with it but I can’t.

[donthaveaclue]

You don’t have to be okay with it. Unfortunately, addicts do tend to lie. Mine has done… he thinks I don’t know about some of the lies because I never confronted him about them as I just couldn’t see the point.

When you are in a relationship like this, you have to decide what you will or won’t tolerate. You don’t have to stay in a relationship with someone who lies about drugs and pub visits and who can’t give you assurances.

[jan0987]

Thank you for your comments. Feels the same here with the lies. I didn’t confront him every time so he doesn’t know I know about many of them.

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