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December 28, 2020 at 4:28 pm #6373gypsy-dollParticipant
My boyfreind of 5 years has serious cocaine addiction all i new was he liked party and take cociane of weekends now im sitting here cryin as hes attcacked me and amashed my home up on a come down he takes cociane daily and drinks he says he not addcites as only has one gram a night an 8 cans hes nice when on cocaine butnext day i pay price he throws stuff at mw an slaps me but cos i habe no back eyes he says he hasnt done abuse on me i camt even pick uo an leave as everytging i owm is in my home ano use will say leave it not that easy any advise how to cope with im
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December 28, 2020 at 6:57 pm #20259lindylooParticipant
Hi Gypsydoll,
Welcome to the forum, Everyone here has a loved one with addictions or alcohol/drug abuse.
I’m so sorry to read your story. This man should NOT be treating you like this. You do not deserve this.
In my opinion he IS an addict if he needs 8 cans and cocaine daily.
I’m no expert but taking all this daily will definitely mess with his head. He won’t be thinking or acting clearly while he’s doing this, also the comedown from it also messes with their emotions.
My son is 28 and has alcohol and cocaine addictions, we’ve had to deal with the aggression and lies, debt for years. They will always blame us for it.
The truth is, only they can stop it, admit they need help. Start AA and CA online meetings, get support from others, get a sponsor, do the 12 steps. My son says its the only thing that works for him.
He is currently 60odd days clean, it’s really really hard for him, but as long as he’s trying, we will support him.
I think you should tell someone close to you, it’s hard to deal with on your own. Also, you need to stay safe, away from him, look after yourself.
Check the Homepage here for advice or the Icarus trust, they can help you too. Please don’t feel alone in this nightmare.
Read the other stories, you will realise you won’t feel alone any more.
Thinking and praying for you.
Lx
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January 7, 2021 at 10:09 pm #20403sallyannejonesParticipant
Have you ever thought about trying to get in a refuge to get away. I know your saying you just want to cope babe but that’s well too much for anyone drugs are one thing abuse is another lovely and hes abusing you!!! A friend of mine was put in a mother child refuge with her son after her so called boyfriend was beating her on the sly and destroying her home she now got a restraining order on him and hes now out the picture.
One phone call to the police that’s walls it would take they taken this stuff very seriously very very seriously. Abuse is No joke babe and you should feel like you should stay there because everything you own is with him.
Better to start off fresh with nothing than put up with that, there are many refuges people go to and the police will help.
Maybe something to think about but I got my ex removed from my house by one phone call after a little abuse and that was it babe.
You can do it lovely!!
Stay strong
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