[lookingforhope]

I wish I had some advice to offer, I’m in a similar position to you and struggling.

It sounds positive that he is taking steps to get help. My partner attends CA meetings which he finds helpful. There are a few posts on here from people in recovery with links to YouTube videos and books that might help too. Ultimately your loved one needs to want to get help for himself.

It really is an awful situation to be in and I feel your pain.

[mb9345]

I am struggling with the same thing partner of 3 years has a bad cocaine addiction im trying my best im hurting so much and I have tried and tried to help but whens the right time to walk away ..

So sorry your going threw this

[jayh102]

Thankyou both for your replies im so sorry you are going through this too, the pain is unreal and knowing what to do for the best is impossible!

I will definitely read through some more posts and find the videos etc to pass onto him to help.

I cant stand these moments we are not talking, I have nothing nice to say but we have all the children here with a weekend fully planned for them. Holding it all together as I’m way too good at now lol !

Always here if youd like to reach out.

It has helped just to get it all out, its not something I would talk to family about and my friends know but I won’t open up everytime. It has caused rifts between my friends and him because they don’t want me in this situation. Feels very lonely.

[jayh102]

I have said many times to him is it what he wants otherwise we are wasting our time and he always says he wants to stop.

I think maybe we need to decide our own limitations as to whens best to leave. Although writing this I already know I have backed out from going through with it, its so hard.

[mb9345]

I also hear the same words and it is so difficult when you have to stay strong for your family..

We also have his daughter and he text me out of all things telling me he’s messed up again .. I have to hold my calm because of them

Limitations are definitely something I’m going to look at too however with the pressure and lies etc i doubt how successful it will be with my lack.of trust in him

[jayh102]

I agree the trust is a big part for the relationship to work, its not nice for us to constantly be worrying or paranoid sometimes it is just best to walk away so we don’t become a mess.

I hope things improve for you. X

[snowful2021]

Gosh I could’ve written this post about my own life. I don’t know whether to go or stay. Wish leaving, or having separate space was easier. I don’t know what I’m staying for. What did you decide to do?

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