[danman83]

Its a bit weird how hes just gone from weed to heroin just like that.. some one hes with obviously takes it and probably pushed it on to him. The minute any of my mates would be like that and im gone.

It sounds like hes just going to get worse. I really would stop feeling sorry for him. How can he come round and see his kids then rob off you. But thats what heroin does to you.

I see my best mate now whos on it picking cigarette dockers off the floor and begging. Its a shame really. But there is nothing you can do. He needs to do it himself. You need to start thinking of you and your kids and move on. Otherwise its going to make you ill.

Good luck

[hox]

Carly876 looks like you are doing the right thing by your children so that it doesn’t affect them any more than it is doing so now. Heartbreaking for you though not having your husband by your side.

It looks like the death of your husbands mum affected him more than he let on. Even though you took the weight off his shoulders, his friend probably offered him an escape through heroin.

I too tried to take some of the weight off my husbands shoulders when something happened in his life. But it didn’t work and he turned to alcohol and cocaine to take his mind off everything. He didn’t go to work and when I look back I enabled him by paying the bills and coping on the little amounts he gave me. I am now trying to keep afloat with the household bills and the debt he has left me in with his credit card and with his failing business because he is now detained at hmp.

He is your husband and you can’t detach, none of us can. But you are doing the right thing. Look after yourself in all this and hopefully your husband will return when he comes to his senses needing your help to finally get off the stuff.

Keep strong. I wish you well.

[thelostone]

Hi Carly,

my God what a complete nightmare for you. ;-( Just awful. My boyfriend is on crack.. (not sure what’s worth)… but it takes its toll on us loving partners.

I tried for ages to help my fella stop. Then one day I realised – this might not get better. He might not stop. He might not ‘come to his senses’… and i stopped hanging around and working so hard to make it happen… because only he can make it happen.

Like you, i am hoping one day he will come back to me the man he was.. was… because the drugs steals the person from you and leaves you with a ghost. You can’t love a ghost. You deserve better.

Please keep us updated. I hope things improve for you. x

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