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Myself and my husband have been caring for our son for 6 years now, through the darkest periods of extreme OCD, sectioning, and increasing illegal drugs use. We feel so broken and physically as well as psychologically, we are at the end of ourselves. We do not know where to turn; he is now 20 yrs old, still living with us, driving us mad by his behaviour. In the past month we had to call the emergency service three times, twice he was in Resus due to his heartrate getting dangeresously slow. We would love to glean any wisdoms, tips, advice from other parents who are in our same circumstances (sadly we know there are many!). We have had some family therapy sessions (just for us), our main struggle is that our son is stubbornly refused help for years, probably put off by his bad experiences in hospitals and psychiatric units. He is regularly using cannabis (if we want to call it that…whatever he gets off the streets), acid, MDMA, alcohol, and God knows what else.

This is our story in a nutshell.

Gio & David

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Hi Gino,

Welcome to the Forum.

It’s so bloody hard being parents to someone who is an addict. I am the Mum of an addict (alcohol and cocaine), I sometimes wish I could forget about it all, but that would be far too easy. As you say there are so many parents in the same situation, I find it all very very sad. The sad thing about it is that it is only the addict who can decide when they need help, until they do this there is the life of hell living with them.

There is help out there once they decide to reach out.

You can speak to the Icarus Trust who will know exactly what you are going through. Read the Theresa thread on here, there is about 6 Mums all with Sons who are addicts, I find it very helpful to read the other stories.

Most importantly take care of you and your husband, having each other for support is a good thing.

Keep in touch on here, take care.

Dx

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