[swmary]

My partner is a recovered coke addict (addiction was before we met). He used once years ago and we had a big row about it. We have always agreed that he would never use again (due to fam history I am also very much against coke). The other night he used coke again at a p

arty. He claims he ‘forgot’ about his promises and only had 2 lines of coke and some MDMA, he doesn’t even like it and has done it 5/6 times over the 8 years we’ve been together (unbeknown to me) and will never be an addict so I am overreacting. Am I?

[coco1212]

To be honest no i don’t think you are overreacting. At the end of the day he used to be an addict and that’s probably how it started just using casually. He could easily relapse. I hope he understands where your coming from your only concerned becauseyou love him and don’t want that life for him.

[swmary]

Thank you for the reassurance. I only wish he could see it that way too, instead of saying that my attitude is the problem!

[bt1978]

No you can’t safely use again. Ever. It’s that simple

[dot]

Nope because part of stopping is realising and setting a notion in your brain that it’s wrong.

If he starts doing it he’s believing he isn’t doing anything wrong.

Look up “cocaine planned relapse” because that is what it is…

[swmary]

Thank you I will look that up now.

[icarus-trust]

Hi,

I’m so glad that you have found this blog and are getting support from the people on it. If you would like more help please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that supports people who are dealing with the addictive behaviours of a partner or family member. If you contact us I can put you in touch with one of our trained and experienced people who you could talk with and maybe get some answers. They would also be able to tell you what other support there is locally for you.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

Best wishes to you.

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