[blackhound]

Heya VMac123… This is my first ever post to this forum.

Your topic of choice, Trust, rings so very loudly for me.

In a couple of sentences… Trust takes so much time and so much evidence. I mean evidence in the sense that they’ve shown you changed behaviour. Although I don’t ever think you can truly trust an addict (past and especially present).

It will take years to build something like trust back up again. So I guess the question is can you wait that long to see if he does change …

[vmac123]

Thanks for your reply Blackhound. I am asking myself everyday if I can ever truly trust him again. I’m still waiting to see if he gets this month’s wages sent to me. I’m already prepared that it will be a no and at that point I need to make it clear that I don’t want to be kept dangling. It shouldn’t be taking this long to sort his finances if he truly wants to come home. I’ve told him his wages come to me before he can move back in – that was at the start of October. I think allowing until December has been long enough to keep being told next month next month. This is truly the most difficult situation to be in. I think being the partner of an addict is horrific and I hope you are now doing okay.

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