[sammy38porter]

My 22 year old son is a cannabis addict. Hes been like this since he was 15. Lying stealing our things our money the list goes on. 3 years ago he became homless and turned to petty crime which he was arrested for. Long short he had to leave our town and lived with my brother 25 miles away. For 2 years he sorted his life out,hadda job and a place to live. He did so well until xmas where he left his job has no money to pay his rent etc. Hes almost homeless and unemployed. My son has given up and keeps talking suicide. He just wants to smoke weed not work or know an’y of my family. My husband doesnt wanto to know and won’t allow him back because of the past. Im at a loss of what to do. How do i help him if he wont help himself? I feel like its all my fault that hes turned out this way. He won’t see a doctor or seek help and really has hit a low. I Don’t know what to do. So worried that hes going to do something stupid as he says he will. This is always going to be this way and part of me wants to run away and not deal with it. He doesn’t realise how this affects me or even does he care. I just dont know what to do anymore! ????

[icarus-trust]

Hi Sammy,
I am sorry to read how you are feeling about your son’s situation. It is really hard for you I know. May be you would like to talk with people who would understand what you are going through and how you are feeling. if so please contact The Icarus Trust.
We are a charity that has a team of trained and experienced people who are there to support people who are dealing with a loved one’s addiction. May be talking with one of them would help you top find the way ahead.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck.

[mumbo]

Hello Sammy I am in the same position with my son with Drugs and Lies, theft and prison and I have constantly helped out with money for his rent ,food travel over the years for 25 Years and I have got to be strong and look after ny Heath and sanity and step away ,and to turn away from your child is not a natural thing to do.! I have got a support person to have a talk to after Easter for the first time ,as I need to find the strength to go forward. Bless you .

[alisons]

My brother went through this in his early twenties. He was unemployed for years and my mum supported him and his cannabis smoking by giving him hand outs all the time. His friends all seemed to do it and i don’t think he realised how serious it was. he was caught with posession and had to go to court. Dad was really strict and condemned her for giving him money and sticking up for him but he stilled lived at home. I came back from uni and noticed a big difference in his concentration and he was anxious and didn’t seem to focus on anything. It’s been a few years now but he’s got thorugh it. He confessed himself one night that he’d ruined his brain with cannabis and i think that point he decided enough was enough. It’s about 5 years now since he stopped smoking it and we’ve got him back. he’s focused. Working full time after a good few pushes as his confidence was rock bottom and i just wanted to say there is light at the end of the tunnel. I think employment is a big factor . Good luck

[mumbo]

Nice to read your story Alison . My Son has never held a job,and just recently has gone back into Prison. He has not faced up to the deals and lending from people of the drug type that someone is forever wonting there money from him . I am glad that you are funding light at the end of the tunnel. My Son has all these promises that he is going to get his life back But I a afraid it I will always be Prison,Prison. I have lost him forever blessings to you .

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