[chezza123]

Hi I’m new to this forum but feel the need to share. I met my bf 7 years ago. We were both big drinkers but since then I have managed to cut down vastly only drinking on occasion. I have never used drugs. He told me at the beginning he had used coke in the past but had stopped ages ago which I believed. Over the past few years he has disappeared on occasion normally after a row and reappeared days later totally skint with tall tales which I naively fell for. Over the past 12 months he has more money at his disposal due to a benefit he’s been awarded and since then the disappearances have become more and more and he blows 800 pound in 48 hrs. I did some digging as the lies were transparent and he has admitted he’s stepped up to smoking crack. He returns I’ll, scruffy, smelly and totally penniless. The last 6 months have been horrendous every pay day I know what to expect and I can’t pick up the pieces any longer financially emotionally and I’ve given up on him changing. Every month I let him back with his solemn promise it won’t happen but every month it does causing rows so I say just do it u don’t need cause a row just don’t come back and let me get on with my life as it’s my house not his. He said it was my fault last time I made him do it. I have told him last chance and I mean it this time but deep deep down I know he will do it again. I don’t know what to do because he says it just A two day blow out but I don’t know we’re hes at half the time and he comes home repentant. I can’t give him ano chance after this but he wheedles his way back in to my home as all his clothes etc are here. I can’t do this any more because it’s affecting my health and this change he promises never comes it’s just getting worse. Last time I got” you made me do it” nagging at me. Am I fighting a loser here coz I’m only a millimetre from calling time for good or can he change?

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