[paul0572]

hello everyone , basically my girlfriend of 8 years and now fiancé, has been struggling with mental health for 4 years , to the point where she tried to kill herself . we eventually got help and we had the mental health team to come and see my partner every day and we finally started to see some progress . after not working for months she finally got back into work and our life started again ! then a “friend ” of hers introduced her to coke, at the start she told me that she tired it .which I had also done in the past so I said don’t make it a regular thing , she agreed . lies, being sneaky on the phone, unable to support our house hold financially things that were important to her no longer were …. eventually found out 2 months ago that she’s so addicted she’s taking it every 2 to 3 days for around 7 months even in work . I’ve found no end of bags around the house , rolled up notes etc….Shes admmited she has a problem and we’ve had no end of break ups cos when she’s low she is vile and nasty , not the same person I fell in love with . she told me she wants help and will be honest if she relapses ! but I know for a fact when she’s still doing it and I know she’s done it recently but yet she is still lying to me about it . when I basically told her I love her and I want to help her , I just need her to be honest….any ideas on what I can do as this is also bringing me down ? thanks for taking the time to look

[paul0572]

we’ve been in love since the day we met , not just boy friend and girl friend but best friends , we could depend on each other for anything . no she’s so cold it’s like I don’t even know her!

[robb]

Morning Paul, sorry to hear all this.

I don’t know nothing about drug addiction, but my partner is addicted to alcohol. Even though I have told her a thousand times it’s ok to drink in front of me (I rather see what she’s drinking just in case she collapses again, that way I know what to tell paramedics) but she won’t. She rather hide it from me every day, she rather stress about drinking and hiding it from me then to actually drink in front of me.

She Says, she is embarrassed about it. She made one bad choice in her life and it’s been with her every day since, she doesn’t want me to see her like that.

I honestly don’t know what to say to you to help, but if you need someone to listen, I’ll be here.

[paul0572]

mine says the same to me as well , that she’s embarrassed . but she have left me 2 times in the last month cos she says she is destroying my life . instead of trying to stop doing coke , addiction is the worst thing in the world

[robb]

Everyone on this forum agrees with you there!

My partner has had two detoxes but still drinks. Her support got stopped which didn’t help the last time.

How’s she doing for support ?

[paul0572]

she sees a counsellor for mental health but nothing for addiction . when she’s high she’s all up for getting drug help but the following day she doesn’t want to talk about it. I’m gonna have tell her mum and dad this weekend cos I can’t cope with this anymore all by my self …I just hope one day she knows I did it for her

[scotgal]

My son is depressed and takes coke, I think he’s an addict , such a lovely man 27 but now he lies all the time,not got a job and is not speaking to me I don’t know what to do anymore he’s got no friends fell out we them all, doesn’t drink though, I text once a week he reads them but no reply we don,t know what to do worried sick most days do I just leave him?? It’s getting the family down to ????????

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