[starmoon10]

Hello,

Looking for some advice as I’m really struggling with my partners cocaine addiction.

I started going out with him 3 years and had no idea to begin with that he had an addiction, hid it very well. Things then must have got on top of him and he took a lot of pills and this is when I found out he had been an addict 4 years prior. I had gave him money for so many things as he came up with so many excuses etc.

After a hospital admission he swore he stopped, he was doing better at work, helping pay bills etc as we had bought a house and things were going well and I fell pregnant. Just as I was about to give birth he started saying there was issues at work with his pay and I stupidly believed him and helped out, this went on for a few months until it all got too much for him again and he took an overdose.

At this point I had a baby and didn’t need all this stress but wanted to help him get better. He started going to CA meetings and got a sponsor and I took him to meetings etc and done at home drug tests and things were going okay but just recently he got a positive test and has been lying about money again and is clearly back on it.

I really don’t know what my next steps are.. he’s tried to get help with the meetings, sponsors, etc but that doesn’t seem to working. I’ve got to make sure my son is my main priority and don’t want drugs in the house. He’s put me in a position where I have absolutely no money and I’m going to have to end up selling the house as I cannot rely on him at all. Is there anything else I should be doing to support him or is it time to leave this relationship? He loves his kids and doesn’t act badly on the substance but it’s ruining our lives and he can’t seem to stop.

Thanks!

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