[hox]

Please could someone explain to me.

Can abusing coke and alcohol disturb your mind and make you or let you forget years of your life?

It’s hard to explain and even harder to understand.

My husband seems to have forgotten over the last seven months the happiness and satisfaction he got from renovating our home. He says, as you all know that he now doesn’t love me and wants nothing to do with our home. I have had to remind him of the happiness, luckily I have photographic evidence otherwise I would now doubt my own sanity.

He wanted his name off the mortgage on Thursday last and I had to cancel an appointment with an adviser who was in the process of getting us a much cheaper deal. Sorry for going on. A solicitor told him he could do this as I pay the mortgage. Where he gets these solicitors from I don’t know. We cannot do anything with our home because of a pending court case. After I explained he has relented and agreed to do the mortgage stuff for me and a new appointment has been made.

Over the last few days, after relenting and not making him move out immediately he has had I think a bit of a guilt trip. He has agreed to do a lot of things that he had previously and conveniently forgotten.

Husband has also not gone out this week on his usual three days of ‘lets get massive, get pissed and do some sniff’ He actually lied to his mate on Thursday night saying he wasn’t well and needed to go to the doctors. I confronted him and said ‘why are you lying to him’ he said ‘doesn’t matter does it’

After the vomiting blood episode last Sunday he has given up smoking as he says it was a wake up call. ?

No Friday night out, no going out last night. (He’s sneezing now though)

Can anyone explain to me what’s happening? Is this all guilt to make himself feel better till he moves out in the week. Or does your mind come and go? Nothing makes sense.

[danman83]

Hey hox.. going to forgeting things and that, its a.. it might because of the coke, because i cant remember a few things in the past, but then you will never know, because you dont know if he would be the same if he was clean all them years.

And it does sound like its a wake up call.. how old is he?

Last month my best mates sister whos 39.. got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, its spread to her kidney, bones, and she keeps needing fluid drained off her heart.

She has 3 kids including a 4 year old girl.

And she wont make it till xmas. She smokes alot of cannibis, so this could of caused it. But we will never know.

So this could be a wake up call for him. It takes its toll on your heart cocaine. My cousin has had a stroke from it at 35 the other month..and his cousin had 1 at 36 last year. Sorry for the negativity lol

[hox]

I think you know by now positivity is a no show. You have to smirk. It’s all negative these days. I’m just trying to understand. There is some bad shit going on with people around you Danny makes you think about its affect on you and those children that will be left. Heartbreaking.

When he was clean believe me he could remember everything, in fact he remembered everything up till seven months ago.

It seems to be the last four years he is having a problem with. Well not him, me. Looking back that’s when he started getting ‘coke friends’ around him. Even helping with the house on occasion. He didn’t go out much but it looks like this is the time he got a bit of a taste for the coke, but says he hid it from me and it didn’t have any effect. Then last year about this time he’s upping the dosage from two a year to four or five a night when going out. Depending on the lie or the ‘showing off’ I’m really not sure, not that it makes a difference as in my opinion he’s still addicted to the stuff.

He is 38 and over the last seven months has been smoking heavily. He doesn’t do cannabis.

I think this staying in and the no smoking is a cover up for the coke that I told him he’d chosen over his wife on Thursday night.

I’m not being so gullible nowadays and trying to gain knowledge from folk that know the score.

[danman83]

Believe me every time i told my gf i got it.. i said just 1! Really it was 2 or 3! I feel like i should tell her but i cant.

And come to think of it. My mate back of me, he cant remember anything at all and hes bad on coke.. and shes a girl lol

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